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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP,[b] I do come from a family where voices are raised in anger/frustration, so I don't think that's necessarily a deal breaker in and of itself. Here's what's different in my family:
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--[b]Nobody is yelling on a regular basis.
--Nobody goes on long rants or rages
--Everybody recognizes that the yeller has lost their cool--including the yeller. The yeller apologizes afterwards.
--Nobody ever hits or throws anything. EVER.[/b]

The situation you describe sounds absolutely unacceptable even to me, a person who is not uncomfortable with a little yelling. This is a dangerous loss of control, and PPs are right that behavior like this very often escalates. This is not safe for you OP. You need to get out.

But I will also add, no one is obliged to be comfortable with yelling. Even if your boyfriend only lost his cool for brief periods and never hit anything and apologized afterward, IT IS OKAY FOR THAT TO BE UNACCEPTABLE FOR YOU. You get to decide how you want to be treated. You are under no obligation to accept this. And I would urge you to steer clear of any relationship that feel uncomfortable for you. I think therapy to figure out why you are so willing to accept a situation that feels so toxic for you would be a really good idea.

I'll say it again: please get out OP. This is dangerous. [/quote]

This.

Get out [/quote]

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