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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have been told (and I also agree), that I am a very laid back parent. However, one thing that I would never allow my child to do is sleep over at another childs house. Honestly, I am not sure why that is but it will not be allowed. I want my child sleeping in his bed, in our house, every night. Play dates are fine but I do not understand the whole sleep over at my house thing. [/quote]

You are not a laid back parent.  And you are depriving your child of something that is not only a lot of fun, and not only typical for children (making him a freak, or at least a kid who is pitied because his parents won't let him sleep over -- trust me, the other kids do talk about those kids), you are depriving him of the important developmental tool of learning to leave home for the night, while also sending the signal that he should be afraid of the world.

The child who sleeps in his own bed ever single night will have a tough time going to college, thats for sure.[/quote]

No, sorry, not even a little bit true.  My BFF as a child and teen was never allowed to do sleepovers. She was very independent and mature and went away to college and lived on her own just fine. She had plenty of friends also as a child. By the time we were 12, all our friends knew she couldn't sleep over so it was no issue. She still went to parties, she just left later in the evening. It's a rule the parents have and stick too all the time then kids just accept it and it's not a big deal.
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Agreed. I won't be apologizing for not letting my kid do sleepovers. And as for doing it because otherwise the other kids will talk about her? That gets a big "so what?" from me. People will talk about you no matter what so it is best to do what is best for you. I was not allowed sleepovers as a child and I went away to college just fine and I never needed to return to my parents house because I couldn't live on my own.    The idea that it is "typical" is based on your expereince and it was not "typical" when I was growing up.  Being so cavelier about the world is  a trap for the unwary. While you don't want to send a message to kids that the world is all danger, you also don't want your child to believe that everyone should be trusted.

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Glad you weren't my mom.  This is just weird and antisocial.  We don't live where this cultural value is recognized so it's not a valid excuse.[/quote]

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