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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just experienced my DD's fourth HS homecoming dance, and before that my son's four homecoming dances.  Girls who are straight are not wearing tuxedos to homecoming.

My opinion is OP's daughter's friend is not straight.  OP's daughter is either not straight as well, or she's quite naive.  The latter is a good possibility based on other things OP said about her.

It sounds to me like OP is just trying to protect her daughter from any teasing or nasty comments/gossip.  As much as posters here want to collect social justice points and believe kids today are so enlightened and won't say cruel things, that isn't the case.

Call me homophobic, I don't care.  I'm just pointing out the obvious.[/quote]

Agree,  no straight girls are wearing a tux- and to homecoming at that. If your daughter is straight and shows up to Homecoming with a girl that no one else knows and she’s in a tux, people will now assume your daughter isn’t straight.  It’s not homophobic, it’s reality.  If your daughter doesn’t care, cool.  But she should be aware there are social implications that may follow her. [/quote]

+1[/quote]

So let’s assume these girls really are just friends, nothing more. And they just want to go have fun at a dance. Do you think that OP’s daughter should have called off the plans when she learned her friend was going to wear a tux because of the potential implications? Do you think it would be preferable for her to miss the dance entirely and stay home rather than have some other kids think she might be gay? Do you think that LGBTQ kids and straight kids can be friends and just hang out together without other people making assumptions about their romantic preferences? [/quote]

It depends how her daughter feels about being perceived as gay. If that would bother her, then no she shouldn’t go with this friend.  Hanging out and being friends is different than going to a school dance with someone that doesn’t even go to that school.  Majority of the tim, when kids bring a date that doesn’t attend that school is when they are actually dating, boy or girl. It generally isn’t fun to attend a school where you only know one person, which is why you typically one see this happening with dating couples. So if OP’s daughter shows up to the dance with a girl that isn’t a known friend, doesn’t go to the school, and is dressed in a tux.  [b]People will assume they are dating[/b]. [/quote]
So? Just like people may assume bringing a boy means youre dating you just say youre friends and move on.

Some very very homophobic people on here making these tiny molehills into mountains. [/quote]

[b]There isn’t nothing homophobic [/b]about not wanting to viewed as gay if you aren’t.  Maybe her daughter is gay or doesn’t care- and that’s fine, but she should be aware it will be assumed.  Then however she wants to proceed, ok. [/quote]
Forgiving your Freudian slip here, that is actually homophobic. If it wasn't such a big awful thing to be gay, it wouldn't be a big deal. The way you view it as an insult is absolutely homophobic. [/quote]

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