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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My 14yo DD (9th grade) is going to homecoming and bringing a friend from another school who she met at overnight camp this summer--they've kept in touch and DD often texts her or facetimes her. DD's bestie is out of town and most of their other friends are going with dates, so there isn't really a 'group' getting together this time. She wasn't going to go until her friend from summer camp suggested they go to each others' dances. We tried to discourage this, since we really want her to integrate with her friends from her own school. She is quiet and without having 1 bestie with her I think she's afraid of getting left out, e.g. she needs a friend to go with. Fine. 
We haven't met this friend since she goes to another school far away (maybe 45min? other side of the beltway).
So this weekend we were having dinner and talking about her dress, and I asked if she'd seen her friend's dress. Well, 'friend' is not wearing a dress; she'll be wearing a tux outfit.

DH and I were surprised--[b]my fear is that DD doesn't quite realize what it could potentially mean. To me it means this girl may think they are going as dates[/b], but I'm kind of sure this is the farthest thing from DD's mind. Again, she's quiet, and a little bit young for her age--she prefers hanging with our 7th grade DD and her friends. So, I just went to talk with her about it, to see if this is a date. No, they're just friends. Does DD's friend think they are going as dates? DD said, no mom. I told her to please make sure b/c I'd hate for there to be misunderstandings. I also wondered if its typical for girls to wear a tux, and DD said sure. There are girls who like dresses and dressing up, and those who don't. She doesn't want to talk with the friend about it, so that's all--no more discussion.

Am I wrong on this? I feel like others will misunderstand that DD's friend is a date, and it could make things really hard for her.  thank you!![/quote]

A) why do you think your kid is stupid, and b) why would a tux mean they're dating?[/quote]

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