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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]50/50 is terrible for kids [/quote]

Agree. So disruptive and destabilizing.

Doing the school week at one place is better than all tha 4-4-2-2 krap.

And weekends at that age are for homework, sports, socializing with friends. [/quote]

My DD’s BFF (14) is in a situation like this- she switches homes every day or every other day and she hates it. Loves both of her parents and has a good setup in both homes (from what I can tell) but it is so stressful for her. She complains to DD about it all the time. Her dad lives near school (and the girl has been in this district since K) but mom lives 30-40min away. Not sure why. She has to wake up extremely early for the commute to school when she is at her mom’s and social life is more limited when she is staying there because of the drive. Also lots of angst about leaving xyz (clothes and personal items, textbook etc) at this or that house. I often wonder why she doesn’t at least stay at her dad’s Mon-Thur or something to make things easier. [/quote]

Yes one of our kids' friends has this issue as well. Same issue with one parent living close to the school and the other living 30-40 minutes away for reasons I have never understood. Instead of switching every day she and her brother switch weekly. Which in theory is at least less destabilizing than daily change. But it sucks for the kids a lot. It's very hard for them to make plans with friends because unless it's planned weeks in advance it's impossible to get communication from both parents to get plans approved and rides arranged.

I think divorce is hard no matter what though. The schedule OP describes would also suck because the kids will be in a different area on the weekends which is going to make activities and friendships hard especially as they get older. The parents should honestly have just figured out a compromise that enables them to live closer together and near the same schools. It's the right thing for the kids. But absent an abuse situation people get divorced to better meet their own needs not those of their kids.[/quote]

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