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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You sound awful [/quote]

Awful for judging, without understanding her child could have a condition for which a patient needs accompaniment to get diagnosed and treated. And no, suggesting therapy is NOT the right start for this conversation. When someone is not functional, they need a physical check-up, then a psychology check-up. The therapy has to be tailored to the diagnosis, so you need the diagnosis first.

I feel so sad whenever children don't get the support they need from their parents. It's not like your child is a violent and aggressive patient who hits their parents and siblings. There are some tragic cases where parents cannot help their child, even if they want to.

But OP can, and she doesn't. It's a shame.
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OP might also have untreated conditions that prevent her from seeing these things in her daughter.  Afterall, a good chunk of our generation grew up without diagnoses or any kind of help or recognition that things might be difficult for them.  Then they became parents, but are somehow magically supposed to be able to help and support their kids in ways they never received support or in areas they didn’t know existed.  Lemme guess - it’s all the mom’s fault too.[/quote]

I’m the PP you replied to.

I had untreated ADHD, yet I got my kid diagnosed with ADHD/ASD at an early age, coached and tutored him myself in elementary, fought my ADHD/ASD husband, who was in major denial, to get my son on meds, then hired tutors for secondary school, while continuing to be his executive function coach. 18 years of having a whole other full time job: not 9-5. Morning before school, afternoon and evening after school. All day on weekends.

So no. I judge mothers AND fathers who neglect the special needs of their kids. It was a major sacrifice for me, but the only way my very impacted kid could have a chance at college (where he is now), and a chance at financial stability.

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