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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I believe it. My parents were middle class and we didn’t struggle on income like some of my peers. But they were unstable and unhappy and I changed schools frequently - K-2 in Catholic school, 3rd at public, moved in 4th to a different public, 5th/6th Catholic, 7th public, moved in 8th to the district where I finished HS in public. Every school and district is different with a different vibe and set of kids, and in a lot of places - maybe not the DC area which is more transient but a lot of other places - the new kid is always the outsider. Remember that in a lot of places in the US, families have lived there or near there for generations. You won’t get social capital or connections in a new place when the Jones family has their name on half the businesses in town and has lived there since the 1880s. [/quote]

OP again. Thanks for sharing your experience. Do you think my plan for my own kids is a bad idea? Preschool-K at a Montessori school; 1st-6th in public school; 7th-8th at a religious private school (about 60-80 kids per grade); public high school. All the schools are local to me. I worry about the transitions right before and after middle school, which is a vulnerable time for many kids.[/quote]

Their friends from elementary school will have forgotten about them by the time they return in high school. It will be difficult for them. I’d almost thing it would be easier to go to a brand new high school in another town then leave for 2 years for private and then slink back to public with the same cohort of kids. [/quote]

Why not do preschool at Montessori and then public all the way through? What are two years at the religious private going to do? Do those years align with your local middle school? Most middle schools are 5-8 or 6-8. And the religious school is K-8 and they will be entering in the last two years.  It sounds like you are going to willfully put your kids  in multiple difficult situations for absolutely no justifiable reason. I wouldn’t ever plan to do this to my children. And why not have them start public K with everyone else? [/quote]

OP again. We were going to put our oldest DC in public K, but a neighboring family went through it a year ahead of us and complained about the program to us. They switched their child to private school 2 months into the school year. Thus, we enrolled DC in the Montessori school for K. DC is a complete night owl and hates early mornings (like the rest of the family), so I wanted to try the public school for the rest of elementary because it has the latest start time. However, the public middle school is the furthest away from us and has the earliest start time. Meanwhile, there's a nice religious school nearby. Ultimately, we want our kids to go to public school for HS because the large size means more class offerings. I guess this is a bad plan, so we should pick either public or private and stick with it.

What about the kids who go to magnet high schools? Do they find the transition disruptive and upsetting?[/quote]

Your kid is so young and will change so much, I wouldn’t worry about it now. By the time they are in late elementary school, you will know if they can handle the early start time, make friends easily, want a change or are excited about going to middle school with their friends. Just stay flexible, listen to, and observe your kid. [/quote]

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