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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The private CC office would do their parents justice by steering kids in certain directions with top 20 schools so that the ED choice isn’t a waste. For example, if a kid wants to ED an Ivy, pointing out that there are 8 legacy kids applying early to Harvard would be a good thing to know! Not sure why this kind of advice isn’t given on the regular-even if you ask they don’t seem to want to answer!![/quote]

OP here.  I tried asking CC this and didn't get very far.  I asked if it made sense for my kid to ED to their #1 choice, given where others in the class were EDing.  CC didn't give me any answer and implied that I was nosing into other kids' business (not my intent at all).  Then I said "my reason for asking is just so we could pick another ED if the lane for choice #1 is crowded" and CC implied that I was making decisions on behalf of my child or forcing things on my child (which they HATE---they clearly never want parents talking on behalf of kids--which is difficult when the kid is 17 and barely came to the decision for one school--let alone is thinking through back-up ED choices).

I just feel way out in left field and confused.  [/quote]

I think this is a very reasonable question for college counseling. Had a kid go thru Holton and they will definitely let you know if the college your kid wants to ED to has many or more competitive or hooked admits that are also applying ED and discuss options.  To be clear, they will support students EDing where they want to and will not provide details on who else is applying, but if you ask, they be upfront if admittance is “highly unlikely” or  “unlikely” and suggest options. [/quote]

What isn't clear is if the OP asked about other students by name or if she is just ignoring what college guidance is saying? No CC worth his or her salt can give a "highly likely" to a top tier school these days. But they might use language like "you are a strong candidate". Additionally, they won't tell you not to apply, but might say something like "Are you sure you want to use your early decision app on this school?"

Look over the OPs follow up posts. She unnecessarily sites GPAs of 3.5 regarding other kids who she assumes are overshooting. This is a red flag. How could she possibly know the other kids' GPAs? I wonder if she isn't constantly asking her son about who got what on any given assessment? I'm guessing she crossed a line with the CC in regards to other students' privacy.[/quote]

I'm the OP.  No, I didn't use any names or GPAs with the college counselor. I asked whether or not the ED was a good choice for this class as it was advised by another parent at the school that this is something reasonable to ask. We had an older kid go through this college process in public school and this time around it feels different. In public school classmates applied to a much large range of schools and you have no idea what anyone else is doing. And please stop attributing things to me that you're just making up. [/quote]

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