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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I am not a helicopter parent and I am uninvolved[/b]. I don’t participate on these Facebook groups.

I have a lonely freshman in college. I feel
sad for him because in chatting with his roommate before school started, he was convinced that he would be good friends with his roommate. However, his roommate already had a group and friends. My son has no friends and has expressed sadness over it. I had a feeling this would happen, as he has social anxiety and comes across as not approachable. Completely different from his younger HS brother who already has friends at this same college and hangs out with them during visits.

I will always be there to offer emotional support for my son. I know how important it is to have a shoulder to lean on just to vent. I don’t get any emotional support from my own mother and it negatively impacts me. I will not do that to my son. Please have some empathy for these kids that have a hard time making friends.[/quote]

That's exactly the problem.  You should have been much more involved when he was young by encouraging him to become a good athlete, musician, artist, etc...  In other words, you should have encouraged him to be the best version of himself so that "men want to be him and women want to be with him." by the time he leaves home for college.  It is probably too late now.[/quote]

This is absurd. No one is their fully realized self at the age of 18. Some boys haven't even finished growing yet. [/quote]

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