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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I get it, because it’s true, even if people don’t want to admit that’s what’s happening when children are in full-time daycare.  But in polite society we avoid saying things that might hurt someone’s feelings, regardless of whether it’s truthful or not.  [/quote]

Because a kid is "raised" by the age of 5? Is that how it works? There is nothing left to do after the age of 5? And where are all those daycare employees after the kid starts elementary school? if they were "raising kids" wouldn't they need to stay involved? Shouldn't they be paying bills and making sure the kid has shelter, clothing, goes to school, does their homework, has a moral compass?

No what people like you don't want to admit, is that the first few years are basic caregiving and essentially any kind and normal person who likes kids is equally as good as a parent at caregiving for 8 hours a day. But in polite society this will hurt feelings.

The actual raising of kids and doing the tough work starts when kids are elementary school age and older. When moral and ethical situations creep into children's lives. That's where the real parenting happens. [/quote]

If you read up on brain development, you will see that the majority of the foundation that shapes you happens in the first few years of life. Of course development doesn't come to a halt but it slows exponentially in terms of the building blocks tht make someone who they are. Young children are also completely dependnet on adults and so those interactions are very impactly to their development. As they get a little older, the interactions accumulate and they have their own ability to respond to their needs so  each interaction is less impactful. Understanding childhood development is important. Your child's brain is pretty much entirely determined by the time they go to school.[/quote]

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