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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s not a mentality, OP. It’s a disability. Educate yourself because sh***ing on people with ADHD does nothing since they already hate themselves. But by all means, revel in your superiority while your marriage falls apart. Hope “victory” feels good. [/quote]

op - HARD no.
I too have ADHD but I still have to step up because it actually is possible to do so when you need to be the adult in the room. so sit down. [/quote]

Gee, it's almost like you're two totally different people who have totally different strengths and totally different weaknesses.
It's almost like each person's experiences are subjective, huh?

Maybe you should stop comparing yourself to your husband?
 
How's that been working out for you thus far?

Just because you also have ADHD, doesn't mean that your type  resembles his type in any way, shape, or form.

You don't get to place the expectations you have for yourself onto your husband -- that's extremely unfair to him and it's a recipe for disaster for your marriage.

You need to meet him where he's at, not where you're at [i]or[/i] where you're expecting him to be at.
No wonder you're so bitter and resentful.

So, why did you marry him if he's always been like this? 
Please don't try to say that he used to be different/better, as people with ADHD have great difficulty hiding their challenges for any great length of time.

You need to stop placing the high expectations you have for yourself onto him.
It's not fair, it's not nice,  and you're going to single handedly corode your marriage with toxicity, bitterness and resentment. 
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