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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]When I say "decorate" - I don't mean painting the walls or any renovations (yet) - I just mean finding some art to hang, finding ways to organize things, getting some extra furniture that would look nice, upgrading old lights, etc. It's not just a "hobby" - it's work! [/quote]

It’s “work” that YOU think should be done, not him. Since you want it a lot more than him, you should do it.

[quote]But I want my house to look nice and that's something he gets to enjoy too (and I know he wants to get a say in it and doesn't want me to just do everything without his input).[/quote]

He literally does not care. If you don’t do [i]anything[/i] he will still enjoy the house just fine. Try it and see!

Think about something he’s interested in that you don’t care about at all. The Roman Empire? WW2 fighter planes? That’s how he feels about your home decoration efforts. [/quote]

This.  I am a DW and do all this stuff.  Frankly it’s a gift, because I get to do things the way I want them.

You can’t use the old “he gets to enjoy it too” because he would enjoy it fine without doing anything.  You need to rethink your approach to this.  If it bothers you to do these things, don’t do them.  The sky will not fall.[/quote]

Interesting. But do you run things by him, or do you just do it? Do you buy stuff without telling him? I agree that my DH would be fine if I didn't do something, but if I'm off doing whatever I want without his feedback, I'm sure he would see it and be like wtf? Or should I approach it as, if he doesn't care then I'm just going to do what I want and he loses his say in it?[/quote]

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