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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Who are all you hair-trigger people?!

I have always walked or driven my kids to school, but I would not feel put-upon in the least if another parent checked-in every morning. Just send a thumbs up. If you don't go to the bus stop one day, just respond "wasn't there today".

No need to make a grand gesture!!! One day you might need a neighbor's goodwill. I sure did a few times, when I had health issues and needed my neighbors and friends to pick my kids up from school and get them to their activities. What comes around goes around. Replying to a text is such a small gesture you can do for another human being.

I mean really, are you so easily irritated by non-events?!? No wonder this country is so divided on everything, and has a massive panic attack on every single societal concept.

Seriously, chill.

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I might have thought this before my neighbor did it to me, but it actually gets to be a lot. For someone where you have a reciprocal relationship of close friends? Cool. For someone who is a casual acquaintance where you suddenly feel responsible for their kid? You can't chill about someone else's kid.[/quote]

This is the part that you don't seem to get. All the parent is asking is whether the kid got on the bus. It's a yes or no.

Insofar as you are a parent at a bus stop full of kids, you are not more responsible for this kid than any other unaccompanied kid at the bus stop. Personally, I feel equally responsible - in a non-stressful, motherly sort of way - for ALL the kids at the bus stop. So do the other parents at the bus stop. We're all looking out for every kid. It's not a burden at all.

So yes, I can completely chill out at the bus stop. I bring my dog. I chit chat. I keep an eye out. At times I've told the driver to stop, there's a kid running towards us who's late. Nothing about this is stressful.

And you don't seem to understand that favors don't need to be returned instantly. You are building a community. Some of my neighbors who casually employed my tweens/teens for yard work, snow removal and dog sitting were then more than happy to act as references for their college jobs. Stop looking at this in an immediate transactional way. The support you get from your community may take years to come to fruition, but it may be valuable nonetheless.
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If you want to be responsible for texting your neighbor about their kid, good for you. Not everyone wants to do this. Some of us don’t like receiving daily texts from neighbors feeling obligated to make sure their kid is on the bus. Also, the neighbor didn’t even ask if it was ok to text them everyday regarding their child. Neighbor just assumed OP is ok with making sure their child got on the bus. OP did not ask or agree to extra duties. It’s overwhelming.[/quote]

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