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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is such an educational thread.  When I think of my parents' passing (both are 80), I always envision being with them, holding their hand.  Now I am thinking of it differently.

Along the same vein, my beloved dog died while I was on vacation.  I felt terrible about it because I wanted to be holding him as he passed.  A wise friend told me that he wasn't missing me in that moment - that he was too busy dying to be aware of me being there or not.

I guess there is very little of this that is within our control.[/quote]

You just have to see how it goes. I was so grateful I was able to be by my parent’s side when they passed. It was truly one of the most significant and spiritual moments of my life. I had full closure and will be forever grateful. Every situation is different so do what is right in the moment. [/quote]
Yes, that is how it has been for me as well. All of my family have wanted someone with them at the end, and it was profound, and beautiful, and peaceful. The exception was my grandfather. He showed all the signs of being about to go, but just… didn’t. After sitting with him for 36 hours, I thought about his solo camping trips when he was a young single man and early in retirement. He would hike or take a horse and go off into the mountains alone for a week or so. It occurred to me that perhaps he wanted to make this final journey alone. I left, and within two hours he died. [/quote]

Very kind. [/quote]

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