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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel like friends get split in the divorce. It depends who took custody of you.[/quote]

This. In the examples OP gave, her DH is friends with the ex-DH. Of course the woman won't feel comfortable hanging out now. A lot of people dislike their ex-spouse so much that they don't want anything to do with them, including old friends. [/quote]

Exactly. My ex abused me. If you're still friends with him, I don't want to hang out. I definitely don't want word of my life getting back to him.

No contact means exactly that. The collateral damage is part of why it sucks so hard.

Still worth it for my freedom.[/quote]

Same. While I never told my friends to choose between us, I still (unfairly?) judge them for hanging out with an abuser even if I am not there. That really throws some water on my ability to trust and meaningfully hang out with them. [/quote]

This. Once I told a few friends what actually happened, the pro-women ones were quick to say he was a jerk. We've stayed friends. The friends I lost had a lot of internalized misogyny and said some hurtful stuff and some even stayed in contact with XH. The women's women are easily identified during a divorce process. [/quote]

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