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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I not only have to care for my parents, which so far isn’t too bad but I also have to care for my older brother who never launched. That is going to harder since my other 2 siblings don’t want to help.[/quote]

Same and we have a sibling like that on both sides

We have one child in part because we're so busy caring for all the adults who refuse to work or care for themselves that we don't have bandwidth for anyone else. We also don't want our never-launched siblings getting the idea that our kids are going to support them later. We are working to arrange money so everyone has what they need financially but I'll be damned if my DD is going to provide elder care for either of her uncles when she's trying to start her own family.[/quote]

Sort of similar, in that I have a disabled adult sibling who can't work or live independently. My parents think I won't need to care for him when they're gone because the very part time respite care my mom has set up and actively coordinates with a couple family friends will somehow continue to tick along for the rest of his life, but honestly, I think they're delusional.

My other sibling launched pretty late and still gets a lot of help from my parents. I don't expect ANY help with eldercare, am already bracing myself to let the complaints roll off me, and already have very little patience for sibling expecting others to do stuff for her. She'll have to figure out how to hire her own accountant for taxes, go to the store herself for stuff she forgets, rent a car instead of getting multi-hour rides to visit hometown, etc.

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