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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A $40K wedding is absurd.  I wouldn't pay for that.[/quote]

Agree.
And also agree that (outrageously!) this is a fairly conservative number for a wedding in 2024.
So—take my outdate notion of what is absurd with a grain of salt.
But I still wouldn’t pay for it.
$20K max[/quote]

I’d also describe myself and my family as “UMC, depending on who you ask.” Like OP, my parents’ wedding was paid for by grandparents. My parents paid for two weddings 20+ years ago in full.

I’m surprised there hasn’t been any family discussion about this. It’s less about the amount and more that the parents haven’t offered any information at all on support that they might provide.

My parents also paid for 100% of my college education at a level they could afford. There were extensive conversations about what that meant from an early age — we had similar discussions about weddings (we are delighted for you, we want to support this financially, and this is what that looks like for us).

To clarify, my parents were not high earners, but are comfortable and managed money carefully and thoughtfully. My grandparents were much the same.

Best of luck to you, OP, as you figure this out.

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