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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The forensic evaluator said my ex was “too selfish to effectively parent long term” and recommended custody to me, visitation to him.

So that’s what happened. [/quote]

Did you go to a trial? Did the court appoint the evaluator? Did you have a GAL?  I am in a custody battle and my tweens do not want to live with him.  He has a lawyer.  He filed. I am going to see a free clinic lawyer.  We are still in same house.  It’s horrible.[/quote]

NP This is horrible. Hopefully his lawyer will let him know that kids decide at a certain age and he will give you primary custody. He can have ample visitation. 50 50 is not good for most kids, even if it is the presumption (back story is that 50 50 was a legislative push by men’s rights orgs with a motive to avoid child support) [/quote]

This is not true. Most kids do best when they see both parents regularly and frequently. (yes, there are exceptions, in particular situations,of course). And child support can be ordered in 50/50 if the income disparities qualify.[/quote]

This is absolutely true, but you seem to have misread what I wrote. I didn’t say no access to both parents. Regular access is fine, but making a kid divide their lives 50/50 is not ideal. This 50/50 push was driven by avoidance of child support which is a fairly strict calculation in most states, driven by custody time. 50 50 sounds fair on paper but it is not ideal for kids. Having one secure home base is best, with regular access by the non custodial parent. [/quote]

That isn’t ideal at all and you are very controlling.  Seeing your kid for an hour or two under the other parent’s supervision is not parenting.  If you think this is imoortant let the other parent have custody and you visit.    You want full custody for the child support.  It’s about your income not the kids.  [/quote]

it’s quite common for men to view the woman’s preferences for the kids as “controlling.” the fact that you focus on the dad’s “rights” and not on the kids’ best interests is suspect. [/quote]

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