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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry, OP. Maybe encourage him to keep trying grouos. Sounds like faith is a big deal, and he's a non drinker, so maybe join a Bible study or Christian fellowship group or a substance free interest group? Theatre kids are usually inclusive.  Always need help with tech, management.

Hang in there.[/quote]

Thank you! 
In order to really answer this, I think I’m just going to say he goes to Madison ( this also answers other posters). Maybe it’s something about Madison being so liberal, but it seems that the Catholic organizations there are pretty conservative. My son was very weirded out by the priests, as well as members of a Catholic organization, who both grumbled about atheists “infiltrating” the Church and other nonsense which neither me or my son is amused by. So basically, he became further isolated from them too. He still goes to church, but only when he comes home ( only an hour and twenty away).

So really, I think he needs to find a kind of community he has in high school ( which, btw, was all boys). A big part of this would be spending a lot of time with a smaller amount of people to get to know them. The tricky thing is, though, my son’s abstinence from drinking and I think that has made him hesitant to go to many parties with people he’s met in class or a club. I just don’t know if Madison is designed for a kid like my son? But, given the cheapness of the tuition, I really can’t see another viable option. A [b]small midwestern college like st Olaf [/b]or Oberlin may be nice, but it’s probably too expensive ( we’re in the middle income bracket where we can comfortably afford in-state tuition, but private school tuition just can’t be an option). I’ve also heard transfer students get much worse financial aid.[/quote]

Given that he already seems to have some things to build on (a few friends, running club, a good professor relationship) I don't think transferring makes sense. But if he does want a small school you might talk with St. Olaf about potential merit aid. They are pretty generous, at least with incoming freshmen and got close to our public in-state cost.[/quote]

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