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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s not easy.  Raising three kids to adulthood was a piece of cake compared to dealing with my elderly parents.  [/quote]

This. People will say...they dealt with your toddler/teen behavior, not it's your turn. I raised toddlers and have teens and I would take that any day over my mother-MUCH more fun, entertaining and less challenging.

I think the key is to figure out your boundaries and what they can afford in terms of supports. NOBODY should have to endure abuse even if it's from a brain disease. I found that somehow mom could behavior better for professionals despite the brain disease. So, I made sure she had the best care possible, but eventually had to love her from a distance when I could not take another second of outbursts and her refusal to stay on meds. Also, in residential they make sure they take meds and contrary to what others claim here, our experience is you work with them to make sure it's enough that they don't violate other's rights to be in an abuse free environment, but not so much that they are a zombie, unless that is the only state that keeps them from lashing out.

If there isn't money to pay for the best supports then get to know the reps at the Council on Aging and call the Alzheimers hotline to brainstorm what your parent can afford and what is free to create a buffer so you can step back, but ensure care.

Once I am done with this phase in life I will be working with a neurologist and following the latest research and exploring my options. I will NOT be abusive to my children. I am hoping Dean Ornish's research and others will help me age well enough, but I also will be researching traveling to do death with dignity and funding out how that works with getting brain scans. At some point you are too far along to make your own decisions.[/quote]

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