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Wow, people. OP was helping when there were exigent circumstances, but obviously that pressing need isn't as pressing.

[b]Do you all just see everyone else as supporting cast for you? [/b]The deal is we ask for help when we need it, but we don't impose if we don't need it (unless it's a trade-off thing, or your very good friend, or something).

it is absolutely a-okay for OP to politely decline to continue this. I doubt everyone in this thread says yes to everything other people might ask -- if you do, then people likely avoid asking you for small annoying things, for whatever reason.

And OP still gets to lean on her community when in dire need. This is obviously not dire need.[/quote]

Yes they do.

A family who does this is always going to want more. If OP continues to do this they will conclude "cool she doesn't have anything going on -- we can call on her in the future when it's convenient for us again."

OP is being used.

BTW: why can't either parent do the school run. So they both have jobs without the flexibility to take their kid to school AND they have grandma to take care of the younger two. Sounds like they need to get more realistic about what it means to have kids. I have turned down jobs because they involved travel or hours that just don't work with kids. That's life. If you are wealthy I guess you can always hire help for this kind of thing. But I would never assume a neighbor (just a neighbor! these people aren't really even friends) would step in to ensure I could keep my demanding job. What if OP would love to take a job with longer hours but she and her spouse know someone needs a flexible schedule as long as they have young kids.[/quote]

[b]OP can open her mouth and say no. [/b]You are spinning out a scenario where the neighbor now has some sort of indentured servant in OP when OP has complete agency in what she is willing to do.

The neighbor asked. OP said yes. Now OP wants to say no. She will have to be a grown-up and figure how to do that. She isn’t a victim. 
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Maybe you missed that she is.[/quote]

She’s saying it to us and asking us what she should do.

She should say it to the neighbor. [/quote]

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