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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We live in Northern Virginia and recently dropped our kids (ages 6 and 4) in Chicago with my in laws for three days while we flew to a friend's wedding in California. They live in the middle of Chicago, which made getting around with our kids really easy for them, because they didn't need car seats to get anywhere; they just took the bus or walked. DH and I both grew up in Chicago and love that we are able to give our kids regular exposure to it, so they love it too.

We talk to my in laws once a week, they come visit us about every 3 months, and we go visit them twice a year. We all have a great relationship.

My parents moved to rural Georgia (2 hours from Atlanta) about 10 years ago. We've never had a close relationship. They visit us once a year (maybe twice) and we haven't visited them in a couple years.

Anyway, my parents saw pictures of the kids on our photo sharing app in Chicago with my in laws and my dad made the following passive aggressive comment to me: "You know, next time you have a wedding, we can watch the kids. There are flights to anywhere from the Atlanta airport and we have raised kids before, you know." I made some excuse about bundling the trip with a visit to the summer camp DH went to as a kid (which is true) and said most of our friends are married at this point, but we're excited for them to come visit for Thanksgiving.

I just don't know what to do about our relationship. I know they want to spend more time with their grandkids, but every time we see them, there's some comment like this or question about our parenting and I just don't want to deal with it. I want my kids to have a good relationship with my parents and I don't know how to make that happen without opening myself up to more criticism from them. What would you do?[/quote]

If your parents really wanted to see the kids they would try and establish a relationship with you.

And no, I wouldn't drop my kids off with grandparents who haven't seen them in a long time and who have been living alone for a while and who would not be used to two small kids and would not have the energy. It's just a disaster waiting to happen. 
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