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[quote=Anonymous]My kid is spoiled, don't get me wrong.

But some of the things we do are:
- model behavior: for example my husband thanks me for dinner every night. so my kid thanks us both for stuff too pretty consistently
- your mileage may vary but we have never had a maid or cleaner or yard help. we are higher income and both work but even with a teen our houses have been under 3000sf. We clean them. Our kid helps, with yard work too. when they go to college maybe I'll get help. But for now, this is about as close to good old middle class values we can do, and we CAN do that. My kid rakes leaves, cleans toilets, and cooks (which they enjoy). They complain probably less than I do about the yardwork. They have boatloads of free time. 
- talk openly about restrictions. If you have them. "Hey we are not taking a big vacation this year because we spent money on X." "Let's talk about the colleges you can apply to, and what we have to do to make that happen" etc... This starts to give perspective. Our teen is slowly finding out car insurance costs money, our contractors workers don't have company cards for lunch, and stuff like that. They need empathy but without substantive discussion and some exposure they won't develop that. [/quote]

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