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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had been chatting with a woman online for several days and we agreed to meet for a drink.  She had several photos on her profile, two of which were full body length.  When I arrived, I almost didn't recognize here because she was about 50 pound heavier than her photos depicted.  I'm not sure if they were old or if she manipulated the camera angles, etc, but I told her directly: "You don't look like your photos online and I feel like this is not a good way to start a potential relationship".  She then told me that I'm a shallow jerk and that I should get to know her for who she is.  I then ended the conversation and left, and blocked her.

I can't help but wonder if I was wrong to call her out, but I felt really deceived, and it wasn't the weight, but the lying and manipulation that bothered me.  I know people will say that next time to talk on video chat first before the date and I'll certainly be doing that going forward.  [b]Was what I said wrong?[/b][/quote]

Was it "wrong"? Technically, no. Was it kind, helpful, necessary, respectful or decent of you? Also no.

Be sure you have "no fats" in your profile in the future. Because, yes- women will use whatever angle is most flattering, and post their most attractive pic. It's stupid; we should all post pics of our double-chins and belly rolls, unshaven legs and first-thing-in-the-morning faces to see which men are looking for actual women and know what those actually look like. But we don't. We try to be attractive to men who want attractive women (only, in your case. Again: post the disclaimer).

If your profile didn't specifically say "I will leave if you're overweight" you're complicit. Fix that for yourself, especially since you seem so invested in the idea of honestly in OLD profiles. Tell the truth about yourself to your potential future matches and you'll avoid this scenario in the future (and they'll avoid you).[/quote]

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