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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Demanding 50/50 split for bio kids or household expenses is crazy when you are married. That's something divorced couples do. In marriage there is give and take, and that includes providing expenses for college aged daughter, even if she isn't your biological daughter. You've been in her life for at least 8 years. However, you both need a firm line with the amount you are paying for college. Expense money (all of it) should come out of a combined pot, even when one spouse adds more to the pot than the other. I say this as a wife who at times has contributed more and less than my husband. We are a combined unit. [/quote] If you read OP's original post she says, "I am at a point where I am doing everything on my own and covering our bio kids expenses without any financial contribution from my spouse. There are other issues in marriage on top of this one such as baseless infidelity accusations, emotional abuse, and etc." [b]What's even crazier than splitting 50/50 is paying for everything[/b]. This couple is on their way to a divorce, and OP ought to be thinking now about herself and her little kids as her step-life sounds like it's coming to an end on its own. [/quote] I hope you feel the same way about SAHMs who's husbands pay for everything?[/quote] SAHMs provide a significant value to marriage and children. I'm not one, but I value their role. Is OP's husband making up for his lack of financial support to the family by doing all the tasks that an SAHM does? If he doesn't, and OP wasn't exaggerating when she said, [b]"I am at a point where I am doing everything on my own and covering our bio kids expenses without any financial contribution from my spouse,"[/b] then it sounds as if her husband has no tangible value to OP or her shared kids. And she claims he's also emotionally abusive, so it's not like there is love or other soft benefits to keep them together. If everything OP claims is true and she's not exaggerating because she's having a bad day, then she needs to face the music. [/quote]
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