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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, but why’d you run out of gas?[/quote]

Because OP failed to do her job.[/quote]

Right, bcause if society and gender norms dictate that it's safer for the man to do the manly protection jobs, then the woman has to do somehting.

I am saying this because I am angry about how it's actually true, not in this siutation but generally[/quote]

Why are you angry about this?

We have a pretty traditional relationship.  My job is to take care of the kids.  DH does stuff like this.  
 Frankly, and I wouldn’t say this in real life, DH is more expendable than I am right now.  If he dies, it’s incredibly sad, but we kind of move on.  He has a $3 million term life insurance policy.  
If I die, the inside baby dies too, and the other kids would really struggle. 
 [/quote]

I am angry because I would like to be able, in the context of my own marriage, to decide that I am not playing traditional gender norms just because society tells me I have to. If my husband and I agree that I shouldn't be the one to have to do all the traditional tasks of a woman, it seems unfair because those with more conservative approaches get to dictate what I do. 
But, because in situations like the gas, if this were serious: the woman SHOULD be watching the tank and planning, because she won't be able to do the more dangerous things - that is, unless you expect one partner (in this case, the man) to do it all. It makes me think about how it's easie for me to plan a playdate because the other people in "pretty traditional relationships" will reach out to me first, may be less comfortable interfacing with my husband. 
In other words, I want to decide along with my husband what our roles are, not traditional society. I don't live in the DC area but in my area, the fact that this isn't possible, has been a major downer in my life[/quote]

Except pumping gas and driving is a man's role. Making sure there are snacks is the women's role. [/quote]

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