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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I see so many discussions about whether it’s worth having kids or not. I’m about to be an empty nester, and I’m also friends with some much younger people who are on the verge of having children. And I feel like when people talk about the pros and cons of children they always talk about the inconveniences and joys of the younger years.

But the reality is that those years go by quickly. And then you’re left being the parent to an adult—who you hope doesn’t hate you and you have a good relationship with. But god knows I know plenty of people who don’t have amazing relationships as adults with their parents.

I look at some of these younger people and I never say it but sometimes I really want to ask them to think if it’s worth it. Those early hard years. And then those magical good years in between when they think you’re the best in the world. But then the teenage years when there’s so much stress about their futures and you’re just an idiot half the time.

But then also beyond that. Being an almost 50 year old with 80 year old parents. Do I bring my mom joy? Half the time she’s mad at me for something or she pissed me off.

I don’t regret having my child. I love them. But I had absolutely NO idea what I was getting into. I could not think beyond those initial childhood years. But those years are nothing compared to all of the rest of the years you are a parent and managing and hoping to have a good relationship with an adult child. Sometimes I wonder—would I have done it if I’d known. But I know there was really no way to know. I’m not sure.[/quote]

Yeah I get what you are saying. No one tells you anything growing up! You would think at least 1 person would be like..."look, once you have kids your life is over" . You are going to expereince hardships emotionally, mentally that you would have never imagined. And no MOTHER tells you the reality either! My mom had 3 kids and by the time I had my firsy child at age 32, I never heard a word uttered about the realities of motherhood. [/quote]

I think this is sarcasm but PP, can you confirm? :)[/quote]

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