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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They're probably keeping a much later schedule than you realize and can't adjust.[/quote]

This.

I get along great with my ILs and my sister and her family and my parents.  And our family vacations are always great.

Expect, we normally, as a family, eat dinner at 8:00.  Others are used to dinner as early as 5:00.  Others are anywhere in between.

I realize we are the outliers (just as much as my parents who like the 5:15 dinner).   But its still tough to adjust when they start talking about dinner at 4:30, or suggest we need to get back so we can start cooking.

And on vacation, I'm even more cavalier about when we eat.  If we're no duty to cook dinner that night at the beach house, but its a beautiful evening on the beach.  I'm not packing up at 5:30 just to make sure dinner is on the table by 6:30.  We can eat at 8:30 or 9:00[/quote]

My kids wouldn’t wait until 830 or 9. It looks like you shirk your cooking duty when it’s your turn. We’d just leave and go eat out rather than wait for the spirit to move you when everyone is starving.[/quote]

Okay.  Cool, but we're still splitting the grocery bill for that meal.

And honestly, its a family vacation.  Which, ya know, is meant to be spent with family.  If you'll be too hungry to wait until 8:00, have a snack at 5:00.

Kinda like when the other folks cook, and serve dinner at 5:30.  I don't skip it and go out to a later dinner bc I'm so stubborn and stuck in my ways.  I eat at 5:30.  And then, when I'm hungry again at 10:00, I'll have a snack.  See how that works?  That's called flexibility.  [/quote]

I'll add:  I'm not shirking my duties.  I'm not waiting for the spirit to move me.  I'm enjoying the vacation.

And threads like this make me very very grateful for my family, which is filled with people that just go with the flow.  Nobody would ever pull a stunt like just leaving before dinner because it wasnt served at their preferred time[/quote]

That’s a lot of use of “I” for a family vacation. Me, I, etc. It’s all about you. Kids thrive on a schedule not chaotic meals which may happen at bedtime one day and their regular time the next day. Try to explain flexibility to a hangry 3 yr old.[/quote]

Well, I raised 3 of them.  So...I sort of did.

They're never too young to learn that its not all about them.  And honestly, when a 3 year old is hangry, and you say "look, dinner isn't for another 2 hours.  Have some goldfish and then go back in the pool", they are usually pretty cool with it[/quote]

Oh sure now that your kids are grown. Please you’re out of touch and can’t relate to parents with young kids anymore. Throwing goldfish at hungry kids is weak parenting. [/quote]

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