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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Divorced, single moms usually create bizarre codependencies with their kids, especially their daughters. Saying it out loud is not the problem--it's the reliance on them for emotional support that is the issue. [/quote]
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There is nothing wrong with "liking your child" as a pp tried to defend her incestual co-dependent relationship with her child. But to the degree that these people take it is too far and extremely unhealthy. [/quote]

But OP didn't say that this woman is relying on her kids for emotional support. She's taking them to amusement parks and enjoying their time there together as a family.

You also don't have to be divorced or call your kids your "best friends" to have co-dependent relationships with them. I was co-dependent with my mom for a long time even though she and my dad are still married and my mom doesn't even seem to like me sometimes. She certainly would never describe me as her best friend. But she got married very young and my dad offers zero emotional support. She's also from an abusive background. She turned me into her therapist and I was where she dumped all her negative feelings about herself and her own life. When I finally had the chance I moved as far away as possible in order to create some boundaries and have my own life but I still struggle with the impact of that experience -- I still find myself drawn into relationships with co-dependent people who want to use me because it's what is familiar to me.

I don't get that vibe at all from what OP is describing. It's okay to enjoy spending time with your kids and to really like them. You can even call them your best friends. [b]The issue is whether you force your kids into emotional support roles [/b]and whether you engage in relationship reversals with them where you are the child and they are the parent who supports and validates you. That's what is dangerous and it has nothing to do with being divorced or not or [b]whether or not you describe your kids as best friends.[/b][/quote]
You don't see any possibility of overlap between parents who call their kids their best friends and parents who use their children as this type of support? C'mon. [/quote]

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