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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yikes a lot of people on this thread are really cavalier about the burial wishes of their family members.

My father has been here for 50 years and still wants to be buried in his birth country and where his parents and brother are buried. His brother died young and tragically and I know it was a huge undertaking and cost (funeral services here and there along with flying the body there etc) but its just what they wanted.

I would definitely prefer my father be buried in the US, but I don't view it as my choice or that it doesn't matter because he would be dead. I don't know his financial plans for this (but I suspect he will set aside enough money for this), but my siblings and I (and our spouses) know we are responsible for making it happen. We have loose connections to the home country now, but it will get harder as the years pass and fewer cousins are in the hometown. A problem for the future.
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Both you and OP's DH need to ask your dads about what arrangements/savings they have for this. After they pass is not the time to figure this out. It is hard enough to lose a parent and do a funeral and burial/cremation locally. If he has savings, how will you access them? It's horrifically selfish to put this on your kids while they are grieving with no thought into the logistics of getting it done.[/quote]

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