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[quote=Anonymous]While weddings can be very stressful, it sounds like this is an ongoing pattern of behavior. I think your assessment OP that you caused it by spoiling is spot on. your daughter has a sense of entitlement due to that and an expectation that you will give her whatever she wants (time, money, attention, resources) without an expectation that it will be reciprocated. She also likely controls the relationship in that she only wants these things on her terms. You have set up this dynamic and after all these years it is hard to change. Setting boundaries and limits is healthier for you but it will feel hurtful and rejecting and mean to her as that isn't her perception (based on experience) of how parents treat their children. I think that you have to be clear with her that respect going both ways is required and stop giving her things when she asks for them. Spoiling is in no way good parenting. Given she is an adult now your parenting days are mostly over - you need to establish a new pattern of adult child and parent that is set around different dynamics. [/quote]

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