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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Where do you “keep hearing” this?  You have no idea what these kids’ scores actually are or what their applications look like.  Admissions officers compare students’ scores and grades to other kids from the same school.  Grades across schools are not a good comparison because grade inflation/deflation makes the comparison meaningless.  A 3.75 at one school is not the same as a 3.75 at another school, although both kids are A students.  A 33 is a strong enough score that it won’t hurt a student with other attributes. [/quote]

THIS!!![/quote]

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And the idea that any person would know what *other* kids' GPA and test scores are is just...ludicrous.  These busy bodies are so sure they know everything about all the other students at their kid's school, when in reality, they're just guessing - and usually those guesses are wrong.  OP, stick to worrying about your own kid and stop assuming you know anything at all about other kids' qualifications.[/quote]

Yep people were surprised as hell at my kid’s acceptances since we aren’t tiger parents or bragging about their academics, perfect scores or GT status since birth. We also are an athletic family- though he applied unhooked. Many very surprised responses on the Ivy.

[b]I assume many people like op making completely incorrect assumptions -([/b] uw 4.0 , all 5s APs, 36 act, etc.  never mentioned ) and no private counselor or paid for academic summer things, etc

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And this is why the only correct reaction towards a kid who got accepted by a college is "Congratulations!"
Trying to analyze why they did or did not deserve the acceptance is just trashy.[/quote]

I don’t think it’s trashy to analyze why they got in. For a sporty smart kid, I would assume it was the sport that gave them the extra edge.  No matter what anyone says, it’s hard if your kid gets rejected when others are accepted if you think their stats are equal or better and rationalization in one’s mind is normal.

While we all want to claim we are too “good” to let jealousy get to us that’s really not the case for most people. It’s harder when kids are academic/athletic “peers”.

When my 13XX kid had a friend who got into multiple Ivies- we were thrilled for her. We knew there wasn’t a chance my daughter would get into any Ivy so there wasn’t any competition and we could be thrilled for her. However if my kid had similar stats /activities and my kid was rejected I’d like to think I’d be a better person and not be jealous but realistically I don’t think that would be the case.

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