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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Then you should've left 5-7 weeks ago.

You already know the answer and are seeking validation.  I get it.  But he is decidedly NOT 'the one.'[/quote]
No you're totally right. I did want validation.

I guess I'm just anxious about what next. I'm 31. I now do this thing where I do the math in my head like, okay, if I break up with him this month, and I take a couple months off from dating, and then I meet someone by the holidays, I can get engaged in a year which means after a year long engagement...

I'm deeply neurotic about what happens next.[/quote]

Do you have the time and money for therapy?  You are still young and the right therapist might be able to help you approach dating from a more grounded, less neurotic place.
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I have the money, not the time. I didn't find it that helpful. The therapist would just be like, "It's not about fixing you, it's about helping you cope." I might try again. [/quote]

That line sounds so obnoxious to me. If you’re making a bunch of terrible choices that make your life hard, you’re supposed to just cope with the consequences of your self destructive behavior rather than trying to become a better person?

Perhaps you can find someone who is skills-focused and not processing-focused. I can’t believe how much time I wasted just telling therapists about my problems and listening to them tell me that my frustrations were all very valid. It was not bad but not that helpful either. I did DBT based therapy with an amazing therapist for about nine months and it was life altering. [/quote]

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