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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think bullying is a very real and terrible thing- but must less prevalent than people often say. There are examples on this thread where a bullying label is applied when it shouldn't be.

Another example. My DD has a friend, Larlo, who this past year was in 6th grade. His parents say he is bullied and they are considering Catholic school next year.

Here are some situations he has been in lately:

1. On the lunch line, a cool kid will go toward the front of the line to talk to someone and Larlo will start yelling (you can imagine his voice as a young 6th grader), "Hey!! You're cutting! You can't do that! He's cutting!" And then the kid will respond "Shut up F-slur!" Is it horrible? Yeah. This is a not a good kid who understands you don't ever say that. But-- no one else on the line felt the need to say anything.

2. Larlo is called gay often and maybe he is but is not able to deal with it yet. Fine. But he'll cry if someone asks him if he likes a boy or if he is gay. OK, it is what it is. And then he'll say "I am going to the dance with John." Pauses. "Just as friends!!!" Then if he person he is speaking to so much as makes a face Larlo doesn't like, Larlo gets really mad and upset.

So these kinds of incidents keep happening and the parents call it bullying. Will Catholic school be better?[/quote]

[b]That is actually bullying.[/b]

Catholic Church is outwardly very homophobic but no one will call him the f word and it is actually a very welcoming shelter for gay people. Sometimes in a good way and sometimes in a horrific way. [/quote]

PP you quoted. I respect what you are saying but I do not agree. A kid that goes out of his way to interact with known mean kids and call them out for borderline infractions has to take some responsibility. He's also engaging people to consider his sexuality and falling apart when they do.

To call that bullying is an insult to kids that are trying their best not to have issues with anyone and are targeted and harassed.[/quote]

Look, meanings of words do change over the years. Great, you've got one definition. These other PPs responding to what their kid was subjected to, that's their right, even if their kid didn't physically get a beat down as bullying would be characterized in the 80s and 90s. You don't have to be the bully police. I mean, you can try, but we all may march on without you while you yell after us.
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