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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is a hot take because I totally disagree. I have ES kids and even I am aware of how fast they infancy flew by. 18 years is literally nothing in the scheme of life and I have never regretted spending more time with them over work/phone/TV.[/quote]

She isn’t asking to spend more time on DCUM. She wants a real break — like a vacation without her kids. I don’t understand why moms martyr themselves and say things like “I haven’t had a vacation for 14 years without my kids.” It is insane to sacrifice yourself entirely on the altar of your children.[/quote]
What? I haven’t had a vacation ever without my kids. I didn’t realize this is martyrdom, I just like my kids.[/quote]

I like my kids and I also like having some time (including the occasional vacation) apart from them and am a better parent for it. The two are not mutually exclusive and I feel sad for you that you seem to conflate “liking your kids” with necessitating being joined at the hip.

I also have taken a number of vacations without my spouse, so by your logic I guess I should let him know we’re doomed for divorce.[/quote]

DP here. Some of us just don't have the option for vacations without our kids. And rather than whining and complaining about it, we just accept it and move on. [/quote]

You sound like you are wining about it. Just take a day off while they are at school and take a chill pill. [/quote]

To be fair to some, my vacation and sick accrual aren't that great and instead of slowly building it up from age 2 onwards, I scrambled with 1-2 days of leave max from 2020-2023 due to COVID and restrictive daycare policies and illnesses and whatever else and that was during FT daycare years. 
Now FF to school years and my leave is primarily used for sick days for my kid or school closures. This upcoming school year from Aug-June has 28 days off. I am not including school closures when I have holiday pay. Even split between my DH and myself plus a good year with little to no illness, you can assume having to cover at least 30 days. If you get COVID or flu or GI bug or strep or whatever else is going around, then that easily hits 35-40 days. We use winter break camps and spring break camps but it's usually just 3 days each.

Thats for one kid. If you have one in ES and another in daycare, you can easily add another 10 days of sick for the whole year.

There's no just taking a day off and "chilling". [/quote]

Gurl gets babysitter FFS and take a day and chill…. Or chill on a Saturday and have your h take the kids somewhere for the day.[/quote]

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