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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the issue is more that there isn't time off. I don't think most people can get any time off. I don't have business trips. When I had a baby though I used to dream of a white fluffy hotel bed where I could sleep until noon. My youngest is great and STTN, but she's 2 and only wants me to put her to bed. I really don't get a break. Dh probably is the most hands on father I know, but all 3 kids really just want me, especially at night. The 2 year old in particular will scream until she throws up for me. I'm trying to treasure it because she's my last, but man could I use a vacation.

I get pretty bitter about relatives who don't make my life easier because I don't need any more burdens. There's a lot of TAKE from parents and rarely any giving. So much can be a slog but I'm trying here. [/quote]

I only have one kid but I second this. I also don't have anyone in my life who can give me a true break except DH. And while we give each other breaks for sure (nights out and taking our kid solo for a day on a weekend -- that kind of thing) I really crave several days of just not having to think about parenting. I think it's compounded for me because I work the "flexible" job which means I'm pretty much always on call for kid-related stuff and I do the vast majority of the every day childcare plus most of the long-term planning. I've tried to offload more of that onto my DH but the truth is he sucks at planning and logistics (not just kid related but anything and even at work this is his biggest struggle) so it really is just mostly on me.

[b]What I would really like is to take 3 days and go away and just let DH handle everything. [/b]Over a weekend. I think it would be good for him and DD too. But it would mostly be for me. Just 2-3 nights in a hotel somewhere with a pool where I can sleep in and sit by the pool and do nothing and not have to accommodate anyone's needs or wants but my own.

I've floated this by DH and he's pretty resistant. He'll say "but why would you want to go away without us? can't we just go on a vacation together and you take solo breaks during that?" -- he doesn't understand the degree to which even our vacations require so much from me in terms of planning and organizing and most of it is for him and DD and I just want a break from that. I should probably push harder for it.[/quote]

So do it! I take trips alone or with friends, as does my husband. It's good for everyone. Your husband sounds like he needs to step up. You only have one kid, he can't figure that out by himself?[/quote]

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