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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Genuinely curious as to what sort of things are you doing with them that is stressful and a result of “squeeze the joy” messaging.  I’ll admit I operate from more of a “benign neglect” stance, so I probably appear a lot less engaged in comparison.  [/quote]

I think OP is probably paying attention to the people who say their lives must be centered around their kids all the time.  Once the school/work day is over they must all be together.   Op must do fun and educational activities.  Op must do active stuff with them.  Op must do X,Y,Z.  I had a friend who kind of fell for this messaging and it really didn't create a great environment.   They've since backed off and don't do that every day.   Their teen is happy to get a day to play video games with friends instead of game nights.  Their younger kid is happy to do things on her own for a little bit. [/quote]

Makes sense.  [b]I do think we give moms the message that no matter what they do it’s never enough[/b].  I never got on that crazy train, and I think it’s been better for the whole family.  [/quote]

Who is we? If my MIL says I'm a bad mother because I didn't make my kids heart-shaped pancakes on Valentine's Day I'd just shrug. Why does she decide? Seriously, where is this messaging coming from? If a pediatrician is telling you your children have a terrible diet and need more exercise then ok, you should be listening to that message. But are people being publicly shamed in the town square for not going on a field trip? Who is doing this shaming? Maybe I just have the best friends ever but I have only once heard someone say something ridiculous and it was regarding breast feeding and she was a nut case anyway so I just rolled my eyes because I couldn't care less what she thought. [/quote]

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