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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Many (most?) people here are like your sister. They may not want to see it that way, but if your vacations, home, kids' private schools, big gifts like a car, really anything, gets subsidized and would not be affordable to you without parental help, you are in fact living beyond your means, through the means of someone else and thanks to their generosity. So who is to say that your sister is "worse" than any of these people or less independent? She has a full time job and functions well. If your parents are actually wealthy, I would wonder what is to gain by not helping her.[/quote]
I come from a lower income family, so my parents didn't help us with anything that you describe above, and my kids have never been in private school.

vacations and big gifts are different than helping paying rent for your 33 yr old child.  A vacation or big gift is a one time thing and does not impact your daily life.  Rent is a basic need that should be one of the first things that an adult should be able to pay for.  Responsible adults pay the rent and other necessity bills first, then spend on clothes and what not.  If they cannot afford their rent on their own, then they either find a cheaper place or pull back on discretionary spending.  What they don't do is expect their parents to help pay for their rent as the go to solution.

That's what responsible adults do. Op's sibling is not a responsible adult, and they want their parents to fund the lifestyle that they want.[/quote]

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