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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We’ve been married 35 years and neither of us has ever slept on the couch because we were upset. Snoring is a different story! We simply don’t go to bed until we at least semi resolve the conflict. We may not kiss and make up but it’s not like boxers sent to their corners waiting for the next round. [/quote]

Same. We don't go to bed angry. However, my husband (and one of our daughters) is a person who needs space after an argument, so we will go our separate ways and then discuss later. Harder to do if an argument happens at night but we're usually able to resolve things quickly. I don't get the whole silent treatment thing, and I think that's childish, and while I can kind of see going to the couch as a different thing, to me it's sort of similar. Why can't you address the issue before going to sleep? And if it's not something that can be resolved, how do you live like that?[/quote]

DP.  I sleep on the couch sometimes.  A lot of times DH shuts down during an argument or he will pretend that the thing that I’m upset about didn’t happen.  
We have kids and jobs and sometimes we just need to go to sleep and move on with our lives before we have time to resolve the problem.  At the same time, I’m not really willing to pretend that it never happened or that there is no problem. [/quote]

I guess I'm trying to decide what kind of problems you have that can't be resolved before moving on to something else but that you would actively be upset about. I mean, if my husband cheated on me, I wouldn't share a bed with him, but also we probably wouldn't stay married so I'm trying to think of an issue that can't be resolved before going to bed but that is small enough to not destroy your marriage. Like are there problems with a 72-hour stewing period? I just find it odd I guess, but clearly I'm in the minority. [/quote]

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