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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is alcoholic behavior if you ask me.

- Alcoholic [/quote]

Half the time he doesn't drink at all at restaurants, which I don't think is something an alcoholic does? He just doesn't see the point is wasting money or drinking so many empty calories if the buzz and social lubricant isn't going to be felt while we're at the restaurant.[/quote]

New poster. While I don't necessarily think the behavior is alcoholic behavior, I do immediately wonder: Why are "buzz and social lubricant" necessary at all? Does he find it tedious or just harder to engage with others socially without "lubricant" at some point, during if not before and during? Ask yourself if this is about alcohol or about his not really wanting to engage, or alternatively, his possibly being fine and very social, but SO closely associating friends/socializing with alcohol that he doesn't always seem able to separate those things--?

You say "half the time he doesn't drink at all at restaurants" but do you mean, he doesn't drink AT restaurants half the time but does drink beforehand, those times? Not clear to me. Does it depend on what friends he's seeing? On how stressed he is otherwise, iike after a day at work?

OP, if you didnt' see some reason for concern, you wouldn't be asking about this here. So on some level, it concerns you. Ask yourself why. If it makes you uncomfortable then it's an issue for you and therefore an issue between you and him. I'd really wonder why "buzz" was something he felt he needed, or just wanted, to socilaize with people who supposedly are his friends anyway, whether he's buzzed and lubricated or not. [/quote]

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