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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1. Tit-for-tat is the dominant strategy when dealing with women.

2. I had someone cancel a lunch date at the last minute because her son returned unexpectedly from college and she wanted to make lunch for him. I told her I'm never seeing her again (I had taken off work to go meet her for lunch, using valuable leave time). [/quote]

If that’s your dominant strategy then she picked up on that - your hatred for women.[/quote]

If my kid came home unexpectedly from college, I'm visiting with him. If you don't understand that, you aren't worth the time.

I also don't understand why you had to take leave for a lunch. Did she know that? What kind of job do you have?[/quote]

Yes, she knew my situation.

The longer story: the woman I had just begun seeing was a rural doctor in a small town in Delaware. None of the local men were "at her level" (her words) so she would try to date men in DC and Philly. Our lunch date was going to involve me driving for an hour or more from the Maryland suburbs to the Eastern Shore. She would be driving about 45 minutes. I had made a lunch reservation at a nice Eastern Shore restaurant. This was pre-pandemic so telework was uncommon but I arranged to telework in the morning, planning to leave home at 11am to meet her. I was taking the rest of the day off, because I wouldn't get back from the Eastern Shore until 3-4PM. Just as I was about to leave she texts that her son came home a day early from college and she was going to make him lunch instead of meeting me.

I had planned to never message her again but a day or two later she called me to ask when we were going to meet again, and I told her I was never meeting her again. She was so surprised by my answer. She almost couldn't comprehend it, and I didn't explain further.

But I will explain it to you: early in a relationship you have to be on your best behavior. If you can't keep your word early on you never will later.  She knew that I was taking off work to meet her. She wasn't missing work--her clinic was closed that day. I also didn't approve of her parenting. When I turned 18, I was a man and I moved out of my parents home and never moved back. The idea that I would stop by unannounced and demand lunch from my mom or dad? That's something I can't comprehend.

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Wow. Red flags all over the place with you. She's well rid of you and I hope she realizes it.

At first I laughed at your whole manly man speech but it's actually very hostile. The level of anger and insults you are throwing out over this is not normal. You are a hot head and every woman would do well to stay away from you. You aren't very smart in that you are trying to convince us that being a "MAN!!!" means you never drop in on your parents or that you can never live with them again. You are weirdly authoritarian and rigid.

I love that you feel the need to vilify the son and her parenting. Did he demand lunch from his mom or did she want to spend time with him? Being a "MAN" has nothing to do with  stopping by to see your folks at home and have lunch with them. You are jealous of her son and that is whacko.

She inconvenienced you and was, perhaps, inconsiderate and you are ready to burn her and her non manly kid at the stake. [/quote]

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