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[quote=Anonymous]A couple things: It is a REALLY good sign he is suggesting counseling. It shows that he wants the marriage to work. Would not be the case if he was having an affair or looking to go straight to divorce. It also sounds like he and / or you as a couple have some major communication challenges. Sounds like he in particular is unable to articulate his true feelings- guarantee there are specific things that have led to resentment, he just can’t or isn’t ready to articulate them. I appreciate that this makes it hard for you to make changes. Therapy should be able to help him get better at this and help him uncover WHY he is that way (my guess is family dynamics in his childhood played a role). Third, once he starts articulating, try as best you can to listen, process, and not get defensive. Don't steamroll him. He needs to feel safe articulating and sharing for this to work. Wishing you the best![/quote]
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