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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Also, OP I would ask what his expectation is when you go back to work in 7 weeks. He needs a full 8 hours to work so what do you get when you go back to work?

I would determine when each of you get your prime sleep. I get better sleep between 1-5, my DH is best between 9-1 because he normally wakes at 4/430. When our new baby arrives, Ill be returning at 6 weeks he has 12 weeks. I can just laugh at being like no hunny you get all overnight and all day because I am working.

You are essentially getting a 3-5 hour "break" where you cook dinner and hanging out as a family. I would bet dollars to donuts you are not just relaxing during that time especially if nursing. You are also about to hit 8 weeks and some big growth spurts. He will be nursing constantly during some of those spurts. [/quote]

OP here. This. I would love if he can take over the morning feed at 5/6am or the 10pm feeding entirely.

I do actually get down time. I shower, sometimes nap if I can fall asleep, or just binge watch shows in between nursing. [/quote]

You said he puts the baby to sleep.  What is preventing him from taking over the 10 p.m feed entirely?[/quote]

OP here. I don’t pump. I’ve actually never used a pump. I’ve down hand expressing and I collect the letdown while nursing. That’s what we use for his evening bottles. It’s much easier for me to nurse. [/quote]

Have you tried side-lying nursing? He can bring you the baby for the 10pm feed and watch you both and you can sleep while he nurses and then go back to sleep. It is very relaxing and I found it hard NOT to fall asleep when doing this. But he should be around to watch and then to do the rest of the nighttime routine.
7 weeks is really early and you are still nursing 2-3 hours. Its not unreasonable to get 4-5 hours block of sleep.

I would also kindly say that if he is CFO then he likely brings in a lot of money. Use some of that money to offset his absence. These are some of the problems that money CAN solve if you are willing.

Your husband is also likely type A and rigid with his schedule/routine based on his occupation alone but then coupled with the 1-1.5 hour workout every morning I can tell you that he will not be accommodating you or your child outside of the hours he has determined are for family- on a regular basis. [/quote]

OP here. I have a large breasts and I feel like laying down smothers him. He’s also a very particular baby and prefers one position while nursing.

We do get occasional help from family but that’s not a regular occurrence. I should suck it up and hire a night nurse or some daytime help.

My husband does provide us with a nice living. I also do well for myself. [/quote]

Go sock puppet go!! More creativity!  More visuals! [/quote]

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