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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I never paid when I was dating ~20 years ago, but I think online dating has changed the landscape.  Nobody wants to invest anything when they're meeting up with a stranger from the internet.[/quote]

A stranger from the internet is still a person.

I met my partner online and he is the most amazing person. We both shared paying from the get go.

If you need a man to prove to you that he is interested by paying for your food, you don't need to be dating actual men.[/quote]

Were you exclusive from the getgo ? [/quote]

Not explicitally but neither one of us dating anyone else after we met because we just clicked.

But it wouldn't have mattered. I'm a grown-up who makes her own money can pay for myself. [/quote]

It makes a whole difference though. He probably showed he was smitten, removed profile or fished less, called you regularly, made the weekends open for you. It makes sense then to alternate paying if it’s that close from the start

But if I sense a guy is just lightly threading waters with me, I won’t pay . But I also won’t even go for any 3rd date either [/quote]

It wouldn't matter!!!!! If I choose to go out and eat/drink I have and will pay for myself. The quality of the date is irrelevant.

Do you pay at the restaurant when you don't like the food? What if you invite HIM out and he decides you're the biggest pain the ass and refuses to pay for his stuff? [/quote]

I never went on dining dates with men if I wasn't sure about the date quality. You can do first few dates during the day: coffee, drinks, a board game, inexpensive concert - there are free bars. 
I could never understand the point of the first or second "restaurant" date. Men invite women they barely know, these women use them and then men complain at this. Just stupid[/quote]

You keep missing the point. It doesn't matter what the activity is. [/quote]

It matters to me that a man shows indirectly he's interested and would take care of me, if I was in a weaker position later down the road. Him pulling the wallet and offering a drink signals "I'm dominant, I will take care of you and other things when you need". I like my men dominant. Maybe if a woman prefers subs she's ok paying. But a dom would never split a small drinks check with his lady[/quote]

I think it's very telling that you (and so many women) equate men spending money on you with caring for you. Don't be a princess. Take care of yourself. Pay for your own shit.

And I have news for you, just because he liked your boobs and paid for stuff on your dates, it doesn't mean he will stick with you when shit hits the fan. [/quote]

Of course it doesn’t guarantee it. But in my experience men who were generous with me at the first few dates turned out better, more equitable, caring and longer term partners.

It’s not me who equates and values love and the woman’s attraction in a monetary way. It’s the MEN. They value everything through their wallet and position relative other males.

A man wouldn’t expect Sydney Sweeney to split the check. [/quote]

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