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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don’t be arrogant in your interview.

Remember you are essentially a new college grad with no experience and out of date skills.

[b]Don’t mention you have kids because after SAH it’s clear your h has no interest in being involved in the kids lives so they will assume you will take off every time they are sick.[/b]

Say you took time to care for a dying aunt.[/quote]

This. Here’s my bias as a working mom:

1. You don’t really want to work 
2. You didn’t value your career 
3. You don’t have a spouse who does his share at home 
4. Your spouse is now used to you doing everything and all sick days will fall on you 
5. You’ll talk about your kid all the time because it’s been your life and you don’t understand other people don’t care about your kids anymore than someone’s pet or vacation [/quote]

Exhibit A as to how terribly women treat other women.  [/quote]

Yup.  I work in a male dominated field and it’s been a breeze getting time off whenever I need even to *gasp* care for children!  They also don’t mind me talking about my kids and even talk about their own kids, if you can imagine it.

My boss even let me go part time when I requested it, even though my “excuse” was simply that I wanted more time with my kids.

So advice for the “biased” working mom: get that chip off your shoulder and stop acting like an AH.[/quote]

Interesting point. I’ve had two phases to my career, both in male-dominated industries.  Both have been family-friendly and understanding to moms and dads when childcare needs have arisen or for me when I wanted to scale back to part-time.  [b]I think women can be prone to treat other women horribly[/b], and I’ve seen the most obnoxious statements on the issue here on dcum. [/quote]

Agree. I have seen the same in my workplaces. The female bosses have been horrible bosses and mentors to junior women. [/quote]

Actually no.
Just the insecure women.
Your comments are clear examples of how women like to tear down other women.
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C’mon. Look at the statements in this thread. It’s clear some women will treat other women in the workplace horribly.  The best bosses I’ve had have been women, and the worst bosses I’ve had have been women. [/quote]

You’re just being obtuse. This is not a woman or a man thing. It’s a person thing.

You do not give too much personal information in an interview. It’s insane and asinine.

You don’t even wear an engagement ring because people are gonna think you’re gonna spend all your time planning a wedding.

It doesn’t matter if you plan to elope or you’re gonna get married at the courthouse don’t wear an engagement ring. Don’t talk about your kids. Don’t talk about your husband.

Say something innocuous like I took some time to explore some passions of mine And decided to go back to more traditional work.

Don’t be like I decided to stay home with my kids for a couple years, Nobody wants to hear that s**t.[/quote]

I wore my engagement ring and told them I’d need two weeks off a month after I started because I was getting married. I got the job and they sent me off the week before the wedding with a champagne toast.  They let me go part-time when my kids were born two years later.  I worked there 16 years.  Good companies invest in there people and understand they have lives outside of work.  [/quote]

Wow, it sounds like a great company. Are you willing to share where?

My salary is mid to upper 6 figures. My employers were pretty unhappy w my maternity leaves as it cost them a decent amount $$ w lost productivity during my downtime and how expensive it was to hire temporary replacement.

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No she won’t because it’s fiction.[/quote]

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