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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How old is he?[/quote]

op - 10. 
they emailed today to say he did something else hurtful and they would be calling to explain. 
i dont mean to be defensive but part of me wants to just say - look why dont I come pick him up and we'll skip the rest of the week and you can all have a break and so can he. 
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You sound like you don't want to parent your son properly.  He's mean and hurtful to people. Also sounds like his behavior is attention seeking.  Why not just step up as a parent and do your job.  If you can't do this get a therapist to do it for you.[/quote]

in what way do you think I'm not doing my job? do you have an sn child? do you think this is something I should be able to completely control?
He is on meds, he has a therapist. He is in sports every day. We have done parent training. Believe me, we do our job. [/quote]

You are not socializing him properly.  I have a SN child and I know it is hard, but you have to help him to understand how his behavior impacts others.  Teach and show him empathy.  You and a long road ahead of you and you should take on the challenge.  You are failing because at 10 he should know better.  You needed to start this at 4 or 5 or 6 when you learned about his ADHD.  I learned when my kid was 4 and some things are just harder.  If your kid is still having these significant challenges and you think you've done everything, then move him to a small private that deals with mild LDs, including ADHD.  They will build Team Larlo support system and they will help him a ton for a year or two, then you can move him back onto regular private school.  My kid learned a ton of self regulating techniques and is now doing very well.[/quote]

So everyone on this entire site who is having social challenges with their kid is failing. That's your brilliant observation. 
Not only did I start this at 4 or 5 or 6 I started earlier. Kid has been in OT since he was 2, therapy since he was 3 and we have had on off parent training since he was 4. He is on medication and has trialled about 6 of them, has a brilliant psychiatrist, has been to social skills classes, he has taken outschool classes, he is in every sport, he attends a school entirely geared around social emotional learning that costs me $65k a year for which I work extremely hard. We do DAILY mentalization and reflexive thinking work with him and have bought and read every single book on empathy and kindness that you can lay your hands on. We even had a nanny who was a trained therapist. He does not qualify for adhd specific schools where we live bc he has no academic challenges and he does not qualify for asd specific schools bc other than this issue he does not require accommodations at all. 
I actually cannot think of a single thing I could do other than what we are already doing other than change schools. but thanks for the daily reminder that I'm failing. btw - sorry to spoil your hot take - I already feel like I'm failing all day every day so you're not breaking any news. [/quote]

These are pragmatic language challenges and you should bring your child to an SLP for direct instruction and ask for some parent training too. There should be a debrief after each incident reported by the school. What happened? Why? Who was involved? How did people feel? How did his actions/words make others think about him? How does he want other to view him? What are some alternative actions? Can anything be done now to smooth things out? Etc.[/quote]

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