Reply to Everything I do is “spoiling” according to my mother

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Everything I do is “spoiling” according to my mother"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My gut feeling is you and your mom are too emmeshed. Do you really need to give her all the details about the shorts you're buying your kid? And picking up her call at an inconvenient time just to tell her you can't talk? I think you're both very into each other's business and here you are. [/quote]
For the THIRD time. We were shopping together on Mother’s Day. What was I supposed to do, tell her to go sit in the car?

But you are all right, share less info, that’s the only way. Thanks![/quote]

I am close with my mother, she lives 15 minutes away, and in the last 20 years she's never gone clothing shopping with me (for me or my kids).  Now, we are not big shoppers, so I realize this is an activity that many many other moms/daughters do together, but it is not a requirement.  But if she is this hyper critical of your choices (and your daughter's) then YES STOP SHOPPING TOGETHER.  You can certainly still spend time with her, but if you have to purchase things, do not do that with her.

If it's something you guys do regularly, just push it out to happen less and less.  Or just focus on what your mother needs while you are out, or only on necessities and not "fun" shopping.  Otherwise you need to practice pushing back firmly when she is critical.  A direct "mom, quit it with the spoiling comments please" and then smile and move on.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics