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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our larger neighborhood has a few areas that are very social, with bonfires, tailgates, formal parties, golf outings, pickleball parties- it goes on and on. We live on the fringes on a street with friendly people but no pressure to formally socialize- our style is more standing on the street the night before trash day and chatting for an hour after we've all brought our trash cans out. Sometimes we feel a little left out at the community pool or school events because we're not part of that circle, but otherwise I don't feel any fomo. I think that it's a pretty self-selecting group and there are plenty of people who live in that area who are quiet and chill, but the go unnoticed everyone else is constantly broadcasting their social lives and friendships.

When we had the chance to move to a nicer house in the more social part of the neighborhood, we realized that it would be a really bad fit for us and decided to stay in our current house. We also realized that there was a level of drinking and edible use in that crowd that we'd never be able to or want to keep up with.[/quote]

[b]This sounds exactly like my neighborhood, including our location on the fringes. I used to get fomo occasionally when my kids were little—not only were the very social blocks doing stuff all the time, but they were constantly posting about it on social media, too. Like, we get it! You’re so much fun! The handful of times we were included, I realized that it wasn’t really that much fun after all. Annoying personalities and alcohol consumption that was surprising to me. (I’m not a pearl clutcher, I used to drink a fair amount myself, but these people were seriously trying to drink some demons away.)

My kids are teens now and most of those old cliques kind of faded or morphed—due to Covid years or divorces, or just kids outgrowing the friendships.[/b] [/quote]

+1. Thank. God. [/quote]

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