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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If no improvement after months of tutoring, I would have the kid stop and work with the test scores they have.  Three attempts is plenty.

Curious why it is [b]not ok in family dynamics [/b]for one kid to be better at school and other to be better in standardized tests?  Doesn’t the standardized test kid get to be better at something?[/quote]

It doesn't come from us.  The twins compare themselves with everything. The amount of money they made last summer, the miles they drove when getting their drivers' licenses, the ice cream sandwiches they ate last week...

Twins are an exceedingly interesting dynamic.  Their entire world (teachers, friends, neighbors, their pediatrician) compares them to each other constantly.  As parents you fight against this from the minute they're born when the nurses make comments on who is longer and who weighs more.  The kids internalize this when it's all they hear for years. As parents you spend their entire lives trying to make people see them as individuals.

It's entirely different with our other kids (we have 2 more).  They don't compare things to each other or their siblings.  [/quote]

Listen I get it, I have 21 year told twins. The college application/acceptance process is going to be a bumpy ride for you AND them and they will hopefully get over this a bit, and you will need to support them in that. My twins know they are entirely different people with different strengths and weaknesses (b/g as well) so as they have matured, they do less comparison. In college, my DS has a 3.9 amd my DD has a 3.4 GPA, the latter being a stem major. They do not compare themselves. My DD knows why she has the GPA she has. They got into the same school, but there is always talk that the "stronger" academic pulled the other in etc. Comparison is the thief of joy. That's all there is so say and twins need to learn that.

I stand by my earlier post that a 1410 is fine. Completely fine. Tell your DC that. Do now buy into this, "it's not good enough" or "it isn't the best I can do". It is and it will have to be. The pressure to measure up is probably malking them more anxious every time they go to the test site, and that's not helping.
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