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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I hope you’re not for real.  My kids were skip counting in 1st grade and shockingly made it through AP Calc. They attend UMD (gasp!) but they also were high stats. We know tons of kids with super high stats coming from magnets who also attend UMD. Coming from a strong MCPS school, many high stats kids won’t even get in. UMD is not a low bar. The only people who say that are those who haven’t been through the application process with kids in recent years. And what elementary parents use the term regional colleges/universities. Moving right along…there’s nothing wrong with not learning to read music until 4th grade. I’d guess that’s actually pretty common among Americans. My nephew who graduated from an Ivy certainly wasn’t hindered by it. Maybe these type B parents are on to something. Parents need to set some rules and boundaries but the best parents allow kids to develop on their own timetable, follow their natural curiosities and build a love of learning without pushing.[/quote]

I’m sure your kid will turn out fine. That doesn’t mean everyone else who lives in a not so great neighborhood will turn out fine.

[b]I have some friends from PG county. The ones I knew turned out well somehow ending up at ok universities. My friend went to naval academy. Many of his friends did not do well. [/b][/quote]

Lived in PG county for several years as a kid. How kids who started out life similar in abilities did depended on 1) family support (obviously), but also 2) whether they moved to a different area or not. Peer effect really did matter for some people and kids from less supportive families who moved to more competitive school districts did as well as kids from very supportive families who didn't.[/quote]

Family support is so important. We used to live in Alexandria where there was a big range of SES. When kids were young, there were some very bright and athletic kids whose parents did not support them. Now they are teens with lackluster grades, play a lot of video games, no sports, etc. They will end up at some mediocre college. We moved and my kid plays three varsity sports, straight As with AP classes, lots of academic extracurriculars, etc. When the kids were younger, I would say those other kids were naturally brighter than my son and definitely more athletic.[/quote]

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